Thursday, 20 November 2008

Creating perfect relationship?

Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away "

* The above is taken from a forwarded email of my dear friend...it is one of the greatest forwarded email I've ever read...reading the above make us thinking and mirroring.....very meaningful indeed..

30 comments:

HoneyBUZZin said...

Hi Wel..haha..after a long search ..finally terjumpa kmu arr...
Ok..nice post. There must be some mutual trust and understandg arr kalu mao bersama tu...apart from that..kalo hari hari mao jadi spy..check sini check sana...what for? Tia panatka?
Anyway..i link u to my page..bole ka brader? hehe (shy mode - on)

Wel^Beiolman said...

HoneyBuzzIn....hi honey darling bebeh...hehe...yup..i guess sometimes although u have that kinda feeling of not trusting the other you..still you have to deal it properly ba tu...maybe using a different approach..ya la people nowadays susa mau pecaya suda ba..love is not everything as once a man said to me..hehe..dulu2 maybe love can make someone willing to die but not in this modern era..haha..tp betul la..telampau free sebab tu la byk masa mau check ba tu kan..hahaha...biar la ba dia panat..

sure girl..thanks and will do..

Gallivanter said...

Spot on, I have indirectly mentioned about this, throughout my blog over the years. :-)

Gallivanter
http://www.danielfranklingomez.com

Wel^Beiolman said...

Gallivanter...yeah bro..i've seen several of your entries....they were posted with hidden messages..well..one needs to think when reading oso..hehe..

cool bro..cheers!

kuai said...

sa rasa, sa pun kana kasi television ni wel... huhuhu..

Wel^Beiolman said...

Kuai..huhu..napa telebison kuai...jan gitu ba k....kopiruba takau om baru la oilan..haha....date ka tu kuai..haha..kita naik sekuter ko kan..jan ko bawa laju2 ah..hehe..

sweetie~ said...

patut la sy baca2 td mcm familiar ja ni article....huhuhu

i like this part:

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband....

tp kes salah faham ni sy kena sda ba.....nah teda maaf utk dia sapa suruh suspicious.....that's why for me confrontation is important in any r/ship....jgn main buat assumption membuta....nnt gigit jari kau baru tau....keke

sweetie~ said...

btw, hensem tu anjing....kekeke

kuai said...

hahaha....telebison bagus bah wel... nda banyak karenah ka.. kalo dia kasi tayang hindi, buli nangis2.. kalo dia kasi tayang senario, buli ketawa kuat2... lol... sa ada 1 helmet ja wel.. nanti kana kajar pulis.

sHeiLa said...

how lovely ur entry well..huuuuuuu

cLaiRe Bennet said...

hehehe..yep..i think it's in the bwoing's loop..familiar jg..

a good reminder la for everyone of us..;)

Mell_f said...

If i were to received this kind of fwded emails,i wouldnt complain! hehe

Mirroring..hm..

†bandaged-knee† †Broken-Medusa† said...

very meaningful indeed! :P .. i thought it was ur writing.. because its like, "what up wif wel today? O_o" lol.. xD.. hes talking bout marriage, trust n bla bla bla.. instead of beer? O_o" <--- lol..

O_O"" okay2.. hmm..*thinking*

hmmm its sweet to know hun, but.. idk.. maybe i have my own views but who cares right..? so.. its cool.. really.. nice sharing.. ;) i cant find a few point that makes me agree.. maybe because i have other experiences, lifestyle and views.. so la la la.. watever~ xD

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away ^_^ of course!

P/s: nightmares happen when u started to realized that you're doing wrong.. ;) and trust is a dirty words nowadays.. ;) it lost the value of being itself.. pple using that words as joke.. n its idiot..

blah! im off.. O_O"

Wel^Beiolman said...

First of all..sia inda tau mcm mana lg ni..but I do believe most of us think the article make u thinking about urself..mirror mirror on the wall.huhu...

Sweetie...tu anjing kiut..ada..ko belum tinguk lg tu lelaki yg kana peluk kalu dia pusing...by the way..sia setuju sweetie..confrontation tau persuasion tau approach yg penting ba..kalu inda trust 100% normal ba..hehe..so be more careful sja la..nasib sia ok sama ko kan sweetie..hehe..memahami..buli main kayu sungkit lagi..

Kuai...hi kuai...sia suka telebisen jg ba..haha...jadi ko mau suru sia jadi hindi ka ni..adada..sia pemalu ba kuai..apa lg kalu p baring2 d padang gulf..haha...ko inda payah pakai la..ko kasi gulung2 tu rambut ko kasi jadi helmet..hehe...kalu kana tahan ko bilang ko ni singh..hehe..inda payah pakai helmet..ehe.

Sheila...yeah..love this email ba..betul2 lovely dove..huhu..mengasi sedar diri sendiri jg ba ni...

Claire..kalo ko inda ingat claire.mimang ko spammer yg indada guna la..haha....ya good reminder tuk kita dan keluarga sejagat..

Mell..takut la mau kasi forward ko mell..suda ada notice ko inda suka forwarded email days ago..hehe...so sharing this as blog would might make a diff kan..hehe..mirror mirror on the wall mell.hehe..cuba ko kasi nyanyi sia tu lagu..hehe..

Beck..yeah beck...what up la with me kan kalu that la my own writing..mimang sentimental tahap tapir tenuk suda la...huhu..it just a reminder to most of us...well..even it does not work with some of us..it might work or happen sometime in future kan..hehe..rock on baby...\m/..

ya la beck..trust mimang mcm indada nilai suda ba sekarang...buli di beli suda..huhu..human ba..what we expect..evolution la ni katakan..

XiGorX said...

Closely related to my quite recent posting...Insecurity....

have a nice day bro....

XiGorX said...

tapi tu great dane juga la yg sa suka...

Wel^Beiolman said...

XigorX..hehe..yea mesh..i realized that...hehe..great dane..cool kan..siok kalu ada tu..u have a nice day too bro..cheers!

sweetie~ said...

wel sedih jgk mau ingat tu cerita dulu ba tapi ego punya pasal stay cool la....muahahaha....

ego pny pasal dua2 sakit hati dua2 makan hati dua2 merana....ketehhh...hahaha

wel kau ok ba....untung betul pompuan yg dapat kau ini....aisey kana belanja ka ni...hehehe

Wel^Beiolman said...

Sweetie...yeye...ok ka sia..lulus ujian ka ni...buli ada sticker P suda la..hahaha...

yeah la..when u think about it sometimes mostly due to egoistic..haha...indada yg mau kalah..semua mau menang kenen..nasib sia selalu kasi ko menang..atas bawah ko saja menang..hehe...

lastly..mau menyesal pun useless suda...haha..that a fact that we have to live on and keep on learning ba kan sweetie...

sweetie~ said...

yea wel.....otopot kopio boros nu...hehe

Wel^Beiolman said...

Sweetie..haha..otopot kasari kio..haha...ailaan ku no..haha...haha..entah betul ka ni dusun ni sweetie..ko pandai sakap dusun pula..haha..

cLaiRe Bennet said...

nah..si sweetie pandai ckp dusun pla..hihi check another box wel...keh keh keh..

napa ada sticker P tu wel? sy pny teda sda aa...kestau c jew dia buli sda jadi penumpang..tu hari dia ckp tunggu teda tu kn..keh keh keh

sweetie~ said...

mositi nogia koilo moboros dusun....kakaka...buli ba klu kampung2....jgn suruh campur orang tua nnt bendera putih....huhuhu

sweetie~ said...

au nopo koilo moboros nga pakadada kio....kada tokou gia papamalu do tulun sendiri...hahaha

Wel^Beiolman said...

Claire...P tuk probation buddy la ba tu claire..haha..gitu ka tu sweetie..haha..3 bulan ka tu P mau lekat d dahi.hahaha...ok claire..check box suda kana tick..aha..

si jew....haha..mcm ada serita sja ni hjg minggu ni tau..haha..kami sedia menanti.haha..


Sweetie...sia inda tau suda mcm mana mau balas dusun ni..haha....ya la..sia besa tu..org cakap dusun d kg..sia cakap bm.adadada..nasib durang ni memahami dan open jg..ba..dari kecil mimang mcm tu jg sia jawab.haha...

cLaiRe Bennet said...

ni laini..cuba kau kasi torining dlu c wel tu sweetie...hehe

iri nogi sweetie...nga amu pia koilo nga osianan kasaii oku gia..mai nopo pogi wel..mumbal-umbal om manatau kasampin kasaii nondoh...akakaka

ReNo said...

syabas betahe'wel heh. ko bakal atau future husband yang di cari2 kalu ko dpt bikin suma itew..hehe

p/s: ba kasi kama sia kredit sbb kc promote ko wel..heheh

XiGorX said...

tapi reno...si wel cari future husband ka? cam salah ko ni kan..hehe

BuDakHutaN said...

ahaks, Wel... macam mendalam tupik kali ni wel.. macam ada tanda2 sudah ni.. hahaha...

yup , Love is Cinta...

Trust , paham memahami , give and take... it's not about memiliki seseorang tetapi tentang perkongsian dan penyatuan...

wah..

Wel^Beiolman said...

Claire...haha...mau kasi torining jg ka tu claire..hehe..sia cuba2 suda la ba ni claire..kalu mimang ina campin sakap dusun mimang inda la ba tu..haha....

Reno...hellooo...belum lg la reno....semua tu ada tp teda duit teda guna jg..haha...sia harap ko sja ni..sponsorship kan..haha..ok ba ko reno..haha..sia order beer nanti ko pelan2 bayar ah..haha..

XigorX....haha..mana satu silap ni.sia pun terus balik2 baca ni.....mesh..ko kasi bingung sia..hahaha..

BudakHutan...mendalam ka butul2...haha..belum lg ada tanda2 ni BH..jan ko mengharap kad jemputan ah..haha..tu ayat perkongsian dan penyatuan tu ba..adeh...tu yg paling bermakna sia baca o...eehe..